A week ago Edith Hagenaar (author and publisher: www.sunshineforthesoul.nl, www.palaysia.com) was at a meeting with Byron Katie. Edith went home with a few more gems of Katie’s wise insights. Of those gems she shares the following and I love to share it with you because I totally agree with the fact that information is priceless:
“Information is invaluable,” Katie said last week. I’ll tell you how I see that, but Katie would say, “I invite you to meditate on that yourself, to find out for yourself if it’s true.”
My look on it is as follows: our thinking finds itself smart, efficient and above all always equal. But actually our thinking is a lazy, selfish, half-blind monster who is content with faulty information to base a judgment or decision on. That is in part logical: if we had to examine a chair each time before we dare to sit on it, not much would happen in a day.
But in human traffic, non-investigating, in other words, interpreting the situation, often causes painful thoughts: ‘He does not love me’, or ‘I am not appreciated’, or ‘She ruined it by the way she handled it’, and so on, and so on. In short, we almost always have inadequate information about the other person (because we cast our own judgments about him or her). If we have all the information, from all perspectives, we come to surprising insights, and more than that: then we come to peace.
With this statement Katie wants to show us that the value of complete information is invaluable – because peace is not for sale, it can only be obtained by re-examining every situation. The Work(the four questions and the reversal) is an incredibly powerful tool: it is like a mathematical formula that, when you fill it in, ensures that you look at a situation from all perspectives. Only then you can see how much information you have overlooked in the first instance.
The four questions are:
- Is it true?
- Can you absolutely know that it’s true?
- How do you react, what happens, when you believe that thought?
- Who would you be without the thought?
For more information on The Work, the four questions and the turnaround, go to The Work.
Have a great holiday month and I will see you in September!